Today was a very strange day, with a lot of small things that happened and made it a big-ish day.
To explain fully, I have to backtrack a little bit to Friday night. My company had their annual Christmas party, and for the first time I took a date. (Okay, maybe now I feel like I need to go back a little further, but I’ve got a friend that I have recently starting dating. Side note: status/labels are so strange)
Bold move, taking him to the party, but we had such a great time. I knew it would make the word spread, and boy did it ever! The next day my grandma called and asked me who my boyfriend is…. what?! I mean the flow of information makes sense, and I don’t really care. Nothing to hide here!
Well….. L1 came home today, after a night with my grandma, asking if I have a boyfriend. 😳 this is partly my fault because I know he is smart and listens to everyone. Again, I don’t really care that he knows, but I was not prepared to have this conversation with him, but here we go!
I told him that I kind of did. That it was a very new friendship and that he really did not need to worry about it yet. He laughed, and said “what! Did he ASK you to be his girlfriend?!” We had a talk about the way that it just kind of evolves into someone you like (this kid is really so smart. He can understand that) and continued to reassure him that he didn’t need to be concerned. He really took it super well, and reminded me that I was wrong all the times I said “I will never have a boyfriend again” About 20 minutes later he said “I wonder what my daddy will think when I tell him!?”
Well, now is FOR SURE the time I have to tell my ex. Why is this all happening back to back? It was so funny. So I immediately text him. I couldn’t wait because L1 FaceTimed him a couple days ago on his own without me knowing. Since I know that can happen now, I needed to get ahead of this.
I didn’t tell my ex because I care what he thinks. I told him because I promised I would. I have a responsibility to pick good people to introduce to my children. I think he deserves to at least know when there might be a significant other in their lives. And he took it so well. He was supportive and happy for me.
This is progress people! You see, when you have kids and are dating, it’s not just you. You can’t do whatever you want. You can’t bring just anyone around. You have to juggle two lives almost. It is very weird. So I never had a reason to talk about anyone else because I never had anyone I was interested in getting to know enough to bring around my kids. But now I believe this person will be around for a while and will be meeting my kids, I had to tell their dad.
I can’t tell you how refreshing it was to get both of those people (L1+ex) out of the way in having this conversation. I almost envied people without kids and how easy dating would be. There is nobody they need to make aware. But now that this moment is behind me, I am very much looking forward to seeing what happens next.
I’ve got a couple very important little men to look out for, and I am happy to have people in my life that understand that. More to come on this new situation.
❤ MS Andrea Jackson